New-age Relationships


So, I was on one of my many social sites today, and I say someone post this “I don’t need a perfect relationship, I just need someone who won’t give up on me.” I found myself responding to her thus “I hope you find that one who wont give up. That’s sadly hard to find no a days. We live in an age where if something breaks, we don’t fix it, we just get a new one. Sadly I really do believe that has translated over to relationships, and not just things…” And that got me thinking about how truly right that statement was, if not more right then even I made it.

It seems like relationships now a days are disposable, when it breaks, or doesn’t work like you think it should, you just seem to toss it and get a new one, I know, it’s happened to me plenty of times, but that’s not what I find most shocking about it, what I find shocking about it is that we have come to the point in our civilization, where the young people start viewing relationships more as things, and possessions, then for what they truly are. Now what they truly are can vary depending on who you ask, personally I see a relationship as a life. Something you work at, something you strive to perfect and care for. Not as a common object that you can throw away at a whim when it suites you. That is just my opinion, and not that point of what I am writing here.

Now, I have posted this before, possibly not to wise, and possibly not too old yet, friend of mine once said, “The problem with your generation Joseph is that you all feel entitled to things, like it’s owed to you, did you ever play soccer?” and so on. For those of you who know what I’m referring to, keep reading, for those of you who don’t, sorry, the old posts are now gone. Anyway, I digress. My good friend told me that, and I see it all the time, and with relationships it seems to be coming into reality more and more. Young people seem to see relationships now as something that is owed to them, that is supposed to work to make them happy, and if it doesn’t, it must be broken, and thus need to be thrown away and replaced. Now I understand I’m not that old yet, I’m still young, I still have a lot to learn, but when I was little, we treated our things with respect, and cared for them, cause we knew if we broke them, we would have to fix them, or live without them forever until we could EARN a new one. So, if relationships truly are “things” now, why don’t we have just as much respect for things as we used to?

To answer that, it’s because we are a disposable society now, when something is old, broken, or doesn’t work right, we throw it away and get a new one. Think what you want about things and stuff, but the last time I checked kids, relationships are not things, and even if they were, they are sacred things, that should be treated with the respect, kindness, tenacity, and love that they are deserved of. You do not simply throw away a relationship. In doing so you are also throwing away someone else. So now, not only are you treating relationships as things, but also the people in them. The idea, that we can even have those views on relationships and the people in there just shocks me. It truly does.

I seem to be rambling a bit, back to my original point, this girl, this seemingly lovely, beautiful, sweet, obviously caring girl said “I don’t need a perfect relationship, I just need someone who won’t give up on me.” She seems to know where she is headed in life, or wants to be in life. She seems more then willing to work towards a relationship and not just casually toss it away, and the fact that she doesn’t want a perfect relationship shows me that at least there is some hope in this world that not all the young generation sees relationships as disposable. It shows me that some people are still willing to work at a relationship to make it work, make it perfect in their eyes. I applaud her for saying what she did, and meaning it. And I truly wish her all the luck in the world with her search, and I know with the attitude she has she will find someone who views relationships as she does, and is not willing to just give up, and will stick with it, and work at it to make it as perfect as they both can.


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